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I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.
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$ }. R4 M7 R/ b n8 _2 N% @So here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.
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; m$ A+ _ I! O& C) K7 zEvery morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:
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Day 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)
+ F$ D; q; h* L9 @% ]8 ~% p9 r Good morning, Ming. How are you? (Co-worker) A$ B _4 L( d: R+ j
I am fine, thanks! (You)
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Day 2: Repeat Day 1 (You)
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I am fine, and how are you. (You)/ j0 a6 q0 D: s
Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)
& r1 T2 M( b- p/ j" r Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You)
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5 e& }8 y8 g8 |+ J+ v" n* zDay 3: Repeat
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4 ]5 k# M. D6 R o I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker)
/ e" r3 {0 }/ V7 r: d3 r8 T Finally, so do you have plan for the weekend? (You): u" s* ^9 P" {# S) |# ~4 I
Oh, ya, I am going to visit my mother-in-law even I hates her, but my husband will make me to see her. (Co-worker)
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Next Monday: Repeat
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How was your weekend? (You): a( n; T1 ?5 X
Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker)
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Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker)2 } E6 a' }3 j- i1 Z4 W
Oh, Pigeon Lake, I have been there once and we caught some good fish.4 `" X7 Q# b% i: K
Really, I don’t know you like fishing, may be you should come with me next time.
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Then you see the boss walking by4 ~6 X6 D' N" N8 \7 T
It is time to stop.
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The above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category. The serious business conversation will be with another topic.
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