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I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.
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So here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.
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Every morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:
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; |0 M2 I% D+ k: Z1 k6 d/ gDay 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)) b- j$ H0 j" [5 x; i9 [
Good morning, Ming. How are you? (Co-worker), c2 f/ `" H* S: ]$ F
I am fine, thanks! (You)
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Day 2: Repeat Day 1 (You)
c! G6 Z0 \1 q Repeat Day 1 (Co-worker)
c' T) b8 v3 L0 q0 ^ I am fine, and how are you. (You)
1 }( \% @% F9 T2 }! U* s9 L6 r" T Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)6 r8 d% m8 ^) ?" l- f
Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You)) n ?& ?7 _1 s3 o1 D0 D
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Day 3: Repeat) o8 X+ j/ }3 w; L( c k& E; U5 y
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0 F0 I3 j; x1 c5 x; p I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker)
6 _, T/ n9 B8 u4 O( S0 B/ x+ A Finally, so do you have plan for the weekend? (You)- \6 _' T% P# G% s+ t# e c
Oh, ya, I am going to visit my mother-in-law even I hates her, but my husband will make me to see her. (Co-worker)+ f+ U8 P3 k& m$ _6 w# ^& _
Poor you, oh, I wish you have a good weekend, and come back with a good mood. You know what I mean. (You)
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( u* `( O/ Q6 W8 L2 N, y. ]0 R1 Q Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker)# I# R) U F& |: B6 X0 T
Is that right? Where does your mother-in-law live? (You)
2 g" L, F; k# g Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker)$ Y" u" \( k9 Y6 Z3 V1 l% F
Oh, Pigeon Lake, I have been there once and we caught some good fish.& ~0 t& T- p- m, T% o5 u# o8 f7 o$ ~
Really, I don’t know you like fishing, may be you should come with me next time.4 p+ N4 Y' ~5 r' }- p- M
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Then you see the boss walking by. y2 L; V, _! R3 h$ f. J
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; O+ c( A* I% FThe above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category. The serious business conversation will be with another topic.$ P# x- B; R# E8 e
And I advise everyone should find the way that works best for her/him.
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