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I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.
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So here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.! F1 p6 w" j0 l6 i
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Every morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:
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Day 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)
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I am fine, thanks! (You)! @* ~" r# `$ V7 f9 T; B2 ~
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Day 2: Repeat Day 1 (You)
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Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)/ w) t( C: W5 Y& u. g# D
Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You)
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Day 3: Repeat
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I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker)
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Oh, ya, I am going to visit my mother-in-law even I hates her, but my husband will make me to see her. (Co-worker)1 q) W: D7 c3 l6 n: P
Poor you, oh, I wish you have a good weekend, and come back with a good mood. You know what I mean. (You)+ \. r! o3 m; _2 i. t
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How was your weekend? (You)
8 P& R1 {/ E$ d/ {4 t, |( x Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker)* X2 j( l7 V5 f( s" G! s
Is that right? Where does your mother-in-law live? (You)
1 T& \+ {) O$ p; k# f& |- D1 O Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker)
3 D) A% i6 r4 @2 T! Y, | Oh, Pigeon Lake, I have been there once and we caught some good fish.% ]( L% \0 T' u! Z% j; L, I
Really, I don’t know you like fishing, may be you should come with me next time.
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Then you see the boss walking by
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$ s. d4 @8 P1 R0 O: k9 F' E6 YThe above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category. The serious business conversation will be with another topic.& @, u2 ]3 D% x' V; u9 L
And I advise everyone should find the way that works best for her/him.
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