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幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气' } |+ M! E: k
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sweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
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我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？9 V. T/ N9 R J- N5 U
9 Z3 ?* }% w5 t! u0 S/ X5 @我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。
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另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。
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对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举
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For Kids: ) X7 d5 g9 j8 F1 z2 M! B4 k
Not all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry. 6 E/ B2 A# [' m q, S, C
They get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.4 S# O, K8 N; u" S$ n3 T% O
They are overindulged by too many presents. ( O) L2 d9 V8 E9 S3 H$ p
They feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need.
' `: ^* d$ O/ g" y, TThey feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.
5 R7 I- U) V4 b) S' j$ N6 I) _ They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.& I5 E8 h" G7 r2 z4 N
Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.
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For Parents: 3 U0 `; \+ C; i0 [
Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.
; M4 Q" w& N, V6 V" j: \- X# N* hThey feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties.
( Q0 X' g2 e+ OThey feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with. % J5 q( ]# B% ]0 W$ w) g
They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.
& H; P) T4 F1 K3 K# l+ OThey feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.. c$ Y- ]: d0 @) |5 ?- d7 F$ f- F
They feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”
' Z" l7 H6 U) g/ s; G9 j6 @! IThey run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.5 f4 N9 q0 R9 \, m( t' l. \0 ~0 D8 D9 }
They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.
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For the Community and Culture: 8 S- T. X6 m" `
This issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:
8 U% z3 r! G. c, X! T2 D5 sA too much stuff culture
8 n8 _, ^( }) R1 n0 ]; A h- vA me first culture
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An entitlement culture- x% ]" `$ h6 R y
A envy culture+ ~3 G+ F; |6 S4 h
A more of everything culture |
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楼主: babalala001
狗仔卡
发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
显身卡
。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10