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本帖最后由 三思 于 2011-4-16 09:04 编辑 4 v) \6 v W5 M% g6 f
幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气
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娃是很知道party的special的， ...7 S; u- R, t V& v7 M* ]( [
sweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
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1 \+ N& ` u! s W* c我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？* i/ b4 E: a2 v8 d. m
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我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。! _% A% Y6 H" Y7 W1 Z( P" a
4 ~& {+ Z. K' Y+ O" l另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。
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对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举, W! X8 N6 Z0 d
5 J/ H( D( r1 G+ p' e9 l0 gFor Kids:
; e/ b# E: V( ENot all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry. ; q1 F3 L }# c$ y- Z3 w! p8 f+ O- Y
They get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.
3 m5 E/ q! X* _* I, Q They are overindulged by too many presents.
' C' {5 b: ^/ N- J, ^+ V- lThey feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need.
6 O" @! Q9 ?" L% J. tThey feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.
9 G6 v- g+ ~1 [+ @7 W$ ?! h2 T4 l They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.( D! o; u* N; M; T& N
Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.
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y2 {7 u, R1 q8 t7 x4 @' L; SFor Parents: . i4 }! Q* a; c2 {% u
Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.
0 R- e& I: b4 B- I HThey feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties. + d4 w/ ` H- h Z4 p7 K4 V
They feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with.
7 T R% f \+ {They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.
; G1 K# Y1 r" o( NThey feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.
2 v4 s0 m( Z2 A- R1 A$ YThey feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”
- Y$ F, `6 C: o' z& W6 `9 S, T) UThey run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.: w( z' t% f# O; X# ~- l y, p* A
They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.' L- j; S7 f" K& L4 r1 H
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- ^; ]1 @: T4 s$ d% C, q& kFor the Community and Culture:
; e% }' K) @1 h& NThis issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:
- }5 {9 ^- C. E c3 F6 |A too much stuff culture # ]5 B) |$ T' N2 y( t% p% y$ x; U
A me first culture( s! H' i) I* B
A trash and waste culture& A5 a% e ?4 D* @' @
An entitlement culture
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楼主: babalala001
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发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
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。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...+ R- z9 i6 @0 ] \ x2 \
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10