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本帖最后由 三思 于 2011-4-16 09:04 编辑 : D3 |1 d0 a8 D( y1 M* j' D
幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气4 ]1 T2 O& D; Q3 f. m# v0 ~
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5 k: W$ W- q5 Y' ~sweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
; J* {, o# G3 X- ]. a% o# r: n: I我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？
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我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。- j& @1 `! \( u6 J* D
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另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。7 G! J4 H4 P% q% G" E* V8 h+ h0 A3 L) u
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对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举/ y7 t4 {, b [4 \
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Not all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry. , j% S3 X5 J) @2 \/ _5 w
They get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.
' N( T6 R8 a, V- r9 H9 Z' y They are overindulged by too many presents. 0 p9 J. W: N/ z, |8 z
They feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need.
2 `( V/ u2 w2 u; t) X) FThey feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.
' i* }) l# l3 [/ Q: {# g C- o3 v* O They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.
, R0 h: \! _* K ^; `; c Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.
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$ C- I7 W& l" ^6 e# HSome parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.( S; }0 F7 O/ u
They feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties.
; P1 V! i: v9 q$ cThey feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with. o) M O! Y _" f: M0 {- k
They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.
/ e/ B! n P1 n* l" yThey feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.
& ~, e, T, O/ B" u) N( PThey feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”
2 Y$ a# v$ h, S/ PThey run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.9 j" o6 d* [0 |" t0 S6 d
They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.
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$ I0 B: h" Y9 r5 pFor the Community and Culture:
; X. o7 S3 V) V' }' V+ a. ~0 _* K2 aThis issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:
/ S. n& G9 u! B9 @$ g% {6 ~- f' IA too much stuff culture
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A trash and waste culture$ k& S& ]# y7 s8 L/ P) d( y
An entitlement culture9 @% h/ H0 r2 Z u9 n+ A. k. f
A envy culture7 R- ]$ n& S2 y% o7 a
A more of everything culture |
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楼主: babalala001
狗仔卡
发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
显身卡
。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10