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本帖最后由 三思 于 2011-4-16 09:04 编辑 / l3 R. J( u' w
幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气
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& [2 A2 ]: M3 x6 ^ N: ^0 ~ X9 s: Z0 s esweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
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我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？# j) W" h6 V; H5 u
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我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。
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另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。
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; \2 Z9 P6 Q/ [3 u对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举
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For Kids: - q5 c7 K: { a5 ?" \' k
Not all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry.
8 t0 v+ `" H! Q8 X0 SThey get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.* o' ]# E% P$ i r8 Y+ E( V
They are overindulged by too many presents.
8 z4 |/ j4 ]1 `They feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need. # h% f& M1 Q5 I) _1 a7 K0 H* L6 P
They feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.
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Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.; G5 }/ y3 D( U# k3 W) F; ^
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Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.
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They feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with.
' i: }' n4 j" \. \" FThey feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.
: ~7 N; w- F1 _2 t& pThey feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.
+ M# ~& f6 o! t9 f$ O* I2 ^- }1 EThey feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”
! D8 X- X& y3 x" X) i W. YThey run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties./ i% F5 `+ Q# V9 i7 g$ }$ y
They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.
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' m( s9 H$ F3 T! SThis issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:
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A more of everything culture |
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楼主: babalala001
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发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
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。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...7 P; |" C% n( A+ t. f' Y
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10