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本帖最后由 三思 于 2011-4-16 09:04 编辑 : i% B+ F: O5 N# a# Z( J
幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气
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娃是很知道party的special的， ...8 Y( x5 [* n1 Z/ u
sweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
0 N; ]" |! g$ f; Z我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？7 ?. w" w$ B! U( ]) z; Z. o- d1 V
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我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。
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另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。
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/ q; I. @% W1 u+ Y对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举
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M' C7 c+ l8 l, z* eFor Kids: # ^6 ]$ g% O6 p
Not all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry. 5 m6 n% \6 C0 c: H! C' m) r
They get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.* m" w. ]& {+ X, a2 r& F/ U
They are overindulged by too many presents. ' F& Z L2 J% Q: s
They feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need.
4 M( X- z+ _+ y% yThey feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.. t# T6 K- _2 a4 W/ h$ Q7 `' v# [
They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.- ^. R2 X2 |; A# s0 H
Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.9 H6 \+ G3 J" V& w
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For Parents:
2 U. w! V4 g# ?+ ?Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.
/ S2 I/ }) `6 C, DThey feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties. $ u& v. i3 q0 a2 ^4 a. i3 y& T6 l
They feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with. ' i0 a6 c0 U2 I! q2 a: o- M
They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.- W0 |. p' D: R3 o4 O
They feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.: ~% o' s4 }& _6 o0 K" P$ l
They feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”
" u2 g2 S6 {) J* ~They run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.# Q/ y7 j5 q4 i3 ]
They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.) e" x8 w- k) Y
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This issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:; w- A$ g- [) y8 M
A too much stuff culture - M- b1 }2 C+ K% S; w
A me first culture" N H+ u! M2 `+ C0 P, |# e6 l
A trash and waste culture
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A envy culture. r7 T+ Z% m7 a' w0 l' [( `% l
A more of everything culture |
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楼主: babalala001
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发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
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。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...8 }1 O3 Y! a/ z+ E% }- j6 W
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10