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幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气
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娃是很知道party的special的， ...1 `% J9 \" R/ {( l7 h' l1 N! U
sweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
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我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？% [: e- S, i& a; G" l7 e- p
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我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。( m! M: H" r: t4 h
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另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。" o4 O3 X1 E G% X+ E1 V- T# Q
1 a u6 k0 V) r4 X对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举2 \+ V, V3 T: I K
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Not all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry.
: j3 t9 O. F% D1 u( j( |6 R/ nThey get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.5 x5 m" m% I% C) N0 [2 Q# V
They are overindulged by too many presents. 7 b4 I: }( ^9 [+ ^+ ]6 g
They feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need. ' X9 }( T& B6 c3 D* \! t
They feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.
" n$ ?, W; \0 V: a& k8 I4 o, U They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.8 v- G5 d1 o! K* R
Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.
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" }! o' o; i2 d" f$ f# ^6 Q) f. wFor Parents: ( [# e( y0 P( x7 L$ P+ g
Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.
1 U6 p1 T/ q% q! _They feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties.
" B: {$ s! U* _) X( H/ v" YThey feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with. : R4 |# L* a5 W# P' t
They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.1 A7 K# ^' M# z n( y
They feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.! z5 M! U0 e0 n6 T+ ]
They feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”) T& C) c6 ^# e* m3 ?
They run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.
2 V& v2 j: F/ N# [They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.
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For the Community and Culture: - T! h& C& N) y2 b1 S# L/ _; Y- K
This issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:, z/ l. C- f3 n
A too much stuff culture
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A trash and waste culture0 s. y# F p7 j9 ^4 E$ A8 E' e
An entitlement culture) O0 |- B* x: B) N
A envy culture
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楼主: babalala001
狗仔卡
发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
显身卡
。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10