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Originally posted by shuishijie at 2005-6-24 12:15 PM:
5 k4 |* b6 b9 yi sense a little tension here 8 W( Y6 U$ z( a0 i \1 N; k
sorry, i didn't mean you by 'you' which is a general reference.
% D, P; ]5 t- E" b$ j& y) E4 M4 l: nback to our discussion, you are absolutely right.
, ?/ m6 T9 O' K1 yif she/he 有那金刚钻, ie. intelligence and self-control, then she/he 就能揽这瓷器活儿.
6 Z% W/ k0 p% AFurthermore, if she/he cheated and is able to hide it for the rest of her/his life, then she/he has to bear with the guilty for the rest of her/his life.
% B; r7 K$ Z2 U% @7 R. z" ]If both cheated and can face it very well, then both of them will be worried if the other will cheat again.
7 Z% s0 I. a) c9 N1 hIf both are not worried about the other cheating, then is this a marriage you want?1 ~( |2 a4 t4 n3 ~
Not mean you here
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没有没有，没有任何敌意, 随便聊天。
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5 w: j) @: f& b其实我只是说一种可能性，并没有道德评价，或者人身安插。; P8 z1 S3 R' N; Z
. W L, ]( y5 q! m1 N! Q, N你后面的三种情形，不同的人，不同的情商，不同的原则，处理情况也不同，有的一样可以花好月圆，有的则是一团乱麻。所以我说的“金刚钻“的比喻，是说没有大家都搞定的本事（搞定情人老婆劳工和自己），就别冒险。. C& l5 w( [5 h1 J: s% C
+ U3 r2 z# l- f* V( j9 I6 {比如前几天看到杂志里谈到“处理婚外恋“说得好，向你的伴侣坦白之前，先想一想，如果你只是想摆脱guilty感觉，那么向伴侣坦白，等于把自己的负担转移给你的伴侣而已，对你的婚姻毫无好处，那么不如跟心理医生讲述。除非这次婚外行为有性疾病的可能，你需要带你的伴侣去就医。所以还是说呢， if you can not take the heat, get out of the kitchen.1 V7 K1 A) @5 Q: L
4 m, D4 S6 _2 \7 R' a' ]. K' v% M我本人对夫妻远距离生存，各找临时情人，是持理解通融的态度的。我并不羡慕那些多年分离还守身如玉的夫妻。当然我也崇尚夫妻的忠诚，所以我更希望的是常相厮守。 |
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