The most common reason for forgetting names is failing to" v$ d! @- p: b( f3 G/ i
focus on the moment of introduction, so you never hear9 Y3 m3 B* y1 m9 x) ^
them in the first place. You are too busy thinking about what 8 i h ~( j" R6 ]' Jyou're going to say next or worrying about what others will 6 ]) Y: f0 T* Y+ k! Uthink of you. w- ^, W. f9 V) I7 e& n
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Use the following 5-second strategy to remember first4 M1 y+ @0 r. ?) J% C0 h0 a& N. Y. D: w
names:4 Z" X. t1 b P& B! e+ F
1) The first second: Focus on the moment of introduction.+ C8 ]$ ]% L. {' ~# C6 X- L5 ~
2) The second second: Don't think about what to& |" b- f7 N A9 ^
say—listen for the name.1 j2 t4 u( e$ L2 h' m* f4 R) L" I5 T
3) The third second: Repeat the name aloud.8 B! [+ x$ |( f) \' I5 }+ ?0 G
4) The fourth second: Think of someone you know7 g- n. R& g6 z7 k# W
with the same name.% z' u- b" @7 @9 p; ~( k
5) The fifth second: Use the name during and at the5 N9 b4 }4 L1 y4 F
end of the conversation.1 ^, M- D S! }( ~8 X6 a
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---Don Gabor <<How to start a conversation and make friends>>