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I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.
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# M, r9 Q# v0 ~+ T, ^So here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.
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5 I( D6 X- q) Y* tEvery morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:3 I; J5 [4 q5 ^8 i) \$ U8 T
/ ~ w/ z! f9 B5 _% q9 ?) ODay 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)- U7 D- S0 t2 y& [( H
Good morning, Ming. How are you? (Co-worker)9 a; ^3 }6 o# B: |: ^. i7 @% Q# L; K
I am fine, thanks! (You)+ F- O, D3 o8 r/ e e; i
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Repeat Day 1 (Co-worker)
9 `# B9 O' h- f1 }/ w5 m4 h I am fine, and how are you. (You)1 v1 O2 R1 h# G0 i+ m$ e
Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)7 w+ A* N% {4 T' y) m! H
Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You)
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/ T0 o) v8 a. } I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker)7 A6 W( h& x) J7 E# {
Finally, so do you have plan for the weekend? (You): ^9 @- P$ p* X( e$ \ D/ Z S
Oh, ya, I am going to visit my mother-in-law even I hates her, but my husband will make me to see her. (Co-worker)
# X2 e4 |$ j) k2 ^3 m, z Poor you, oh, I wish you have a good weekend, and come back with a good mood. You know what I mean. (You)
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How was your weekend? (You)
8 N' }, _3 h& D$ k. R4 @ Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker)0 y3 c- Z* J- K$ g9 m
Is that right? Where does your mother-in-law live? (You)1 C# T" X+ y; M4 b
Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker)& J, |) J1 ]: P
Oh, Pigeon Lake, I have been there once and we caught some good fish.9 E2 O8 _3 M4 r& G- {% |8 v; U
Really, I don’t know you like fishing, may be you should come with me next time.
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It is time to stop.
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The above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category. The serious business conversation will be with another topic.
/ R: { a7 x; _/ u8 L$ u+ hAnd I advise everyone should find the way that works best for her/him.
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