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I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.
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So here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.
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Every morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:
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Day 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)
) J' o- r3 |$ }9 A m; E Good morning, Ming. How are you? (Co-worker)
: [( d0 I3 F1 i& J1 X4 {" }4 ` I am fine, thanks! (You)$ D, z$ L2 p% I8 I
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Day 2: Repeat Day 1 (You); W' @' e$ f3 h: l
Repeat Day 1 (Co-worker)
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Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)+ H) i- C4 G& o5 D* W& @4 Z7 |
Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You)
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Repeat
) U; P9 r5 d0 t I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker)
1 m' U5 n/ F& r& Q5 S" ? Finally, so do you have plan for the weekend? (You)
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Poor you, oh, I wish you have a good weekend, and come back with a good mood. You know what I mean. (You)- r& ?" ^6 |8 X6 _" I; q6 k
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How was your weekend? (You); X. `8 j* B6 ]) [
Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker): \0 x9 _; t) p; |, }
Is that right? Where does your mother-in-law live? (You)) Y- ] E% C; i+ R$ u Q$ e
Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker)
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Really, I don’t know you like fishing, may be you should come with me next time.
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Then you see the boss walking by) a( h! W' c5 B: v5 p
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4 u8 O& ^& R1 Q$ ^2 A4 ]The above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category. The serious business conversation will be with another topic." x% A, b4 R& R( y1 z b
And I advise everyone should find the way that works best for her/him.
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