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发表于 2008-8-27 22:44 | 显示全部楼层 |阅读模式
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I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.
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So here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.+ ^; N! k! k5 t9 o3 ~' x: F
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Every morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:
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1 H' q  Q/ F2 t; `; T" `$ k4 PDay 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)4 C) i  F5 N( E$ k  _' T4 o5 w
            Good morning, Ming. How are you? (Co-worker)
( {( B  {6 H: \  f0 b% w/ k            I am fine, thanks!       (You)
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: y- y; ?2 ~5 d& \6 }Day 2: Repeat  Day 1 (You)
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            I am fine, and how are you. (You); R, v: D3 m6 E  {: O  M5 R* T
            Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)
1 M) H$ S6 y  ^1 g. E            Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You)
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Day 3: Repeat
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) R1 ~/ Q8 P. u) i, |. `0 H            I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker). l. \  D- ^, Q0 {0 C
            Finally, so do you have plan for the weekend? (You)2 A2 c7 m& d; C( z7 l5 h
            Oh, ya, I am going to visit my mother-in-law even I hates her, but my husband will make me to see her. (Co-worker)% [: X# u. p1 P0 p
           Poor you, oh, I wish you have a good weekend, and come back with a good mood. You know what I mean. (You)6 F% u* C: F0 Q/ Q0 T, A# U
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Next Monday: Repeat
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6 z- F$ f6 E" R                        How was your weekend? (You)% w6 R6 H( }5 M8 }+ b4 j
                        Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker): e) g" T8 _0 U: d* r3 G2 y+ F
                        Is that right? Where does your mother-in-law live? (You)
" a- M; [1 N% J- `# ~' j, O5 H                        Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker)2 k5 c; ^, _) Q* a1 g
                        Oh, Pigeon Lake, I have been there once and we caught some good fish.! R) y, F! n% e8 Y( n4 ?8 \8 j
                        Really, I don’t know you like fishing, may be you should come with me next time." ?; j) {/ U( t8 i
                        Great idea and I will
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% i. w( s3 t& ~8 ]$ X4 L                        Then you see the boss walking by
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7 j( }( |3 o" w' A) GThe above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category.  The serious business conversation will be with another topic.
( y5 u7 Q9 e) G: F4 Q* [And I advise everyone should find the way that works best for her/him.
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# s0 d$ D% g( p7 O[ 本帖最后由 Matrix 于 2008-8-27 23:47 编辑 ]
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